sunday’s scuds (april 25, 2010)

Sunday brought us the start of the new series, The Marriage Experts. And Dwight brought us a message full of unbelievable scuds. His message was about hitting the bulls eye in marriage. And after he peppered the wall with paintballs, he set down the paintball gun and picked up his scud launcher and aimed it directly at us. Here are some of the scuds:

• We don’t like to deal in reality when it comes to talking about our marriages.
• Marriage doesn’t save you. It’s not what’s going to fix everything in your life. Nobody truly lives “happily ever after.”
• Often times the person who needs the most help ends up receiving the least amount of help because they’re too proud to ask for it.
• Marriage is not a contract—it’s a covenant.
• A contract says: I limit my responsibilities and protect my rights.
• A covenant says: I surrender my rights and assume my responsibility.
• Living together does not work. It’s a contract relationship. And it’s selfish.
• We must prioritize our spouses over our careers, hobbies, friends, and kids.
• Marriages do not work when spouses are 2nd, 3rd, or 4th place.
• The greatest gift I can give my kids is to love their mom well.
• We think that if we marry our “soul-mate,” we won’t have to work at our marriage. Wrong.
• Marriage has nothing to do with “chemistry.” Affairs are about chemistry.
• Marriage is brutal to selfish people.
• You can only be loved to the extent that you are known.
• The original sin in marriage: blaming each other.
• A marriage done right gets better every year.
• One of men’s greatest needs is sexual fulfillment.
• Wives, your bodies are not your own—don’t email me, email God about that one.
• Anybody can have sex. What you CRAVE is intimacy.
• Husbands, your wife thinks your the sexiest when you’re helping around the house.
• Husbands, maybe if you helped out more with the kids she wouldn’t be so tired!
• My responsibility to my wife is to help her reach her God-given potential.
• In your marriage, you’re either a dream-maker or a dream-breaker.